Why I Believe ’90 Day: The Last Resort’s Rob and Sophie are Just As Bad as Each Other
Rob Warne and Sophie Sierra‘s 90 Day: The Last Resort segment is near its end and I have no idea whose side I’m on at this point. Sophie and Rob first appeared in 90 Day Fiancé Season 10, where their red flags were evident right away. Sophie thought Rob could’ve done more to prep for her arrival. Rob thought Sophie was needy and asking for too much. He also didn’t get along well with her mother, which added even more turmoil to the relationship when she came to visit their tiny apartment before they got married.
Their relationship continued to falter in their 90 Day Fiancé: Happily Ever After? segment, resulting in Sophie moving into a friend’s apartment. Now they’ve been separated longer than their marriage, and almost as long as their entire relationship. They were going to part ways for good after the Happily Ever After? Tell All but decided to jump at the opportunity of joining The Last Resort. However, as I’ve watched them go back and forth this season, I’m starting to realize that they’re either perfect or imperfectly made for each other, since they seem to share a lot more traits than they realize, both good and bad.
‘The Last Resort’s Sophie and Rob Lack Accountability
The biggest issues that all the couples have in The Last Resort Season 2, but most specifically Sophie and Rob, is their lack of accountability. Both of them struggle to be accountable for their actions or truly apologize. It took Rob over two years to give Sophie a heartfelt apology, only for it to be ruined in less than 24 hours once she discovered he was still chatting with other women. Meanwhile, I don’t think I’ve heard a heartfelt apology from Sophie at all in this process. Every time her actions are brought up, she dismisses them by arguing that Rob pushed her or made her feel like she had no choice.
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Now there’s no denying that their relationship has turned into a vicious cycle of one trying to up the other. The partners are trying to prove who has more hurt and pain; who did the other “more wrong.” But this type of communication will only continue to hinder their journey. If they truly care for each other and the relationship, they have to learn to be accountable, even if they feel like they were justified in their actions. Sophie can be justified in moving out. However, her actions have consequences, such as hurting Rob’s feelings and driving a bigger wedge between the two. Sophie most definitely should prioritize herself, health, and peace, but needs to realize that she still has to be accountable for those actions.
Both ’90 Day Fiancé’ Franchise Stars Can Be Manipulative and Vindictive
Another quality that makes it difficult for me to choose sides is the manipulative side they both have. Throughout their appearances together, Rob has shown how manipulative he can be. Whether his actions are intentional is not the point. When Sophie’s mom came to visit, Rob threw a hissy fit that ruined the entire experience. When Sophie discovered the full extent of his cheating, Rob tried every technique in the book to downplay his actions and get his wife to forgive him. Rob often seemed to care more about his wellbeing and happiness, instead of their happiness as a couple.
Now I feel like Sophie is acting similarly. Again, this could be part of the vicious trauma cycle where they keep replaying the same storyline. However, I still stand firm behind my accountability beliefs. I understand Sophie might be reacting to Rob’s actions, but sometimes her antics seem manipulative as well. I can understand her desire to talk her problems out with the other stars and look for support, especially from other women. However, standing up first thing in the morning at the campsite to tell everyone about the cheating seemed a little vindictive.
Overall, I can certainly understand Sophie’s point of view. For years, Rob has been lying, gaslighting, and manipulating most situations to make Sophie look like the bad person. After tolerating that behavior for years, I could empathize with Sophie’s need to stand up for herself. However, this is one of those situations where I think no reaction is the best reaction, similar to how I feel about Gino Palazzolo and Jasmine Pineda. Rob might be totally in the wrong, but since he struggles with accountability, he’s not thinking about his actions from that point of view. Instead, he flips the script, which triggers Sophie. In the end, I think Sophie needs to focus on herself and learn healthier coping tools. This way, she’ll feel more confident during conversations with her husband, and he won’t have as many opportunities to point out her flaws. 90 Day Fiancé and its spin-off series air on TLC, and are available to stream on Max in the U.S.
